A week ago I had this huge life changing epiphany (or so I thought) on how I'm going to be carefree and happy and no worries blah blah blah. But then I ruined my own new found mood by finding something that essentially broke my heart. I'm saying it's my fault because I was looking for something to find. It's human nature, and sometimes curiosity just gets the best of us. So the next day I stayed home from school because I physically couldn't get myself out of bed. When theirs so many different emotions stir-ing inside it's natural to just shut down. At least for me it's natural. But before that happened I was going to write this -
"In life their are heavy moments where you just have to take a deep breathe and move on. Sometimes it's hard to start new and erase everything that's happened in the past. But sometimes it's necessary. Because no matter how many good memories their were, you always find yourself thinking about the bad. And that's not healthy, for either parties. People naturally drift apart and you can't really do anything about that. Just learn to accept the past and look forward to the future. There have been so many lessons that I've learned over the last few weeks. I've learned that you can't make people change just because you want them to. I've learned that somethings and some people are just not worth stressing over. I learned to keep an open mind and always give everyone a chance. Because life is short, and sometimes you don't know what someone is going through. And I learned that it's okay, not to be okay. And I wasn't okay. I felt extremely stressed and overwhelmed. It felt like everything that happened was this huge deal, and it wasn't. I woke up this morning and it was like this huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I feel so light, and free, and just alive! "
Word for word that was the draft of what I was feeling. So many things have happened in this past week alone that I'm starting to realize why. Everything happens for a reason, and sometimes you need a negative impact to finally be able to open your eyes. "It's okay" That's the lesson that I learned today. That it's okay. It's okay to feel the pain of a betrayal. It's okay to cut someone who was making a negative impact in your life out. It's okay to dream big and get looked down on for it. It's all okay. Because at the end of the day the only person who needs to be okay is me. And I'm okay. I'm truly 100% okay. I've finally learned to let go. Obviously I didn't learn by myself because that's like saying I finally did something for myself. (I'm working on it.). But I just stopped worrying about all the people who don't love me and embracing all the people who do. There are people who love me. They love me for being myself and I know that no matter what they will always love me. Because they've seen me at my best, and at my worst. And they're still here. I refuse to let anyone walk over or emotionally destroy me. I have no more pent up feelings of the past, or resentment or regrets in general. I honestly don't even care anymore. I'm content with my body, my life, my family and my friends. I will be open to anything and everything. No more shutting the door and building the walls that I felt so safe hiding behind. My friend who I've missed sent me something that changed my perspective on life. This is a message for anyone and everyone. Whether your going through a breakup (or you feel like you are for the second time. Whether you've just lost a 'friend' or someone close to you. Whether you feel like you're playing the game of life and losing. This will get you through it. Just remember its okay. This was posted by life buzz and it's called just-stop. I highlighted the ones that helped me get over everything.
#1. Stop
spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend
time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you
in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for
a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks
your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side
when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your
worst that are your true friends.
#2. Stop
running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won’t be easy. There
is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch thrown at
them. We aren’t supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.
That’s not how we’re made. In fact, we’re made to get upset, sad, hurt,
stumble and fall. Because that’s the whole purpose of living – to face
problems, learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is
what ultimately molds us into the person we become.
#3. Stop lying
to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie
to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first
and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.
#4. Stop
putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is
losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that
you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If
there was ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to
you, that moment is now.
#5. Stop
trying to be someone you’re not. – One of the greatest
challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will
always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger,
but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you.
Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
#6. Stop
trying to hold onto the past. – You can’t start the
next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading your last one.
#7. Stop being
scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times
more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures
behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up
regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.
#8. Stop
berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong
person and cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one
thing is for sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right
for us. We all make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in
our past. But you are not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and
you are here NOW with the power to shape your day and your future.
Every single thing that has ever happened in your life is preparing you for a
moment that is yet to come.
#9. Stop
trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive. But the
truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love, laughter
and working on our passions.
#10. Stop
exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you’re not happy with
who you are on the inside, you won’t be happy in a long-term relationship with
anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first
before you can share it with someone else.
#11. Stop
being idle. – Don’t think too much or you’ll create a problem that wasn't even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive
action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making
progress involves risk. Period! You can’t make it to second base
with your foot on first.
#12. Stop
thinking you’re not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an opportunity
arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow beyond
our comfort zones, which means we won’t feel totally comfortable at first.
#13. Stop
getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships must be
chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company.
There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in
the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love
when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
#14. Stop
rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. – In life you’ll realize
that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some
will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will
bring out the best in you.
#15. Stop
trying to compete against everyone else. – Don’t worry about what
others are doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records
every day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.
#16. Stop
being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone else’s blessings
instead of your own. Ask yourself this: “What’s something I have
that everyone wants?”
#17. Stop
complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life’s curveballs are
thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for
you. You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and
it may be tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at
you in the past. You’ll often see that eventually they led you to a
better place, person, state of mind, or situation. So smile! Let
everyone know that today you are a lot stronger than you were yesterday, and
you will be.
#18. Stop
holding grudges. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You
will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness
is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going
to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the
answer… let go, find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness
is not just for other people, it’s for you too. If you must, forgive
yourself, move on and try to do better next time.
#19. Stop
letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your
standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.
#20. Stop
wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don’t need it
and your enemies won’t believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your
heart is right.
#21. Stop
doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time to take a deep
breath is when you don’t have time for it. If you keep doing what you’re
doing, you’ll keep getting what you’re getting. Sometimes you need to
distance yourself to see things clearly.
#22. Stop
overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things,
because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things.
The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend
smiling with someone who matters to you.
#23. Stop
trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn’t
reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.
#24. Stop
following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy,
especially when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don’t take
the easy way out. Do something extraordinary.
#25. Stop
acting like everything is fine if it isn’t. – It’s okay to fall apart
for a little while. You don’t always have to pretend to be strong, and
there is no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn't be concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you
need to – it’s healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner
you will be able to smile again.
#26. Stop
blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you
can achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility
for your life. When you blame others for what you’re going through, you
deny responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.
#27. Stop
trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible,
and trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change
the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow
your focus.
#28. Stop
worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it will strip
today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling over is
to ask yourself this question: “Will this matter in one year’s time?
Three years? Five years?” If not, then it’s not worth worrying
about.
#29. Stop
focusing on what you don’t want to happen. – Focus on what you do want
to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success
story. If you awake every morning with the thought that something
wonderful will happen in your life today, and you pay close attention, you’ll
often find that you’re right.
#30. Stop
being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day
thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting
for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking
about what you have that everyone else is missing.
I basically highlighted the whole thing but you get my point here. I hope this can help you shed some light on your life. If you're ever feeling down or stuck or under appreciated. Just-Stop.
xxxx.
- Ayssatou
