Sex.

First Something Completely Random.-I am so completely happy. For many, many, many reasons. The problem with me though is that I know sooner or later this happiness is going to end so I'm savoring it. I'm at a place where I don't feel anxious about everything, or that I have something due or a r=test I can't pass. I feel really good about myself physically and emotionally. I even have my PSAT tomorrow and I'm so pumped and ready. And yes I know I'm just sidetracking from talking about a very awkward topic but hey it never hurts to try! Okay so here goes...

So sex....Holy shit I haven't even started and it's already super awkward. Okay so as an adolescent and High School student this topic is a huge part of puberty itself. Yes boys do get it worse than anyone because the only thing that runs through their mind every minute of every day is sex, sex, sex, SEX! I remember my Freshmen year health class and my teacher was talking about hormones and puberty and sex and such and she said how girls don't ever actually think about sex or have sexual hormones until their early thirties. Well you know what that's a fucking lie. Sure with girls sex isn't always on our minds I mean we have a lot more important things to think about like clothes. But we do still think about it and whoever tells me they don't is lying. There is no way you've never thought about it and it's not even a big deal. It's human nature. I wonder at what point man decided that sex is this huge thing that everyone should be embarrassed about or almost a shamed of. Like no shut up you're going to do it eventually unless you're like asexual some shit like that [trust me it's a thing...just not the thing you're thinking of.] But like in general there will come a time where you meet someone and sparks fly and things happen and that little bee stinger goes into you're bird hole and BAM you're not a virgin anymore. As you can tell I have no idea what I'm talking about but you get the point. Okay so this is not a random thing that I just suddenly decided to right about because the sexual frustration is real. Now the thing is at what age is it okay to have sex ? Religiously everyone says wait until you get married and such and such. But with the society we live in today very few people care and even fewer people live by it. Some people have sex for the wrong reasons in the sense that they think it will somehow bring them closer to love, or being 'loved. And then they have sex with the wrong person just because you think that maybe if you have sex with them then they'll love you. The earliest age that someone I know had sex was at age 10. Which is way to young that's pre-puberty don't do that.  My personal opinion is that yes age is a factor but not so much that it affects you're decision. I think if you are really mature and in love and if you feel comfortable enough with your own body and your partners body then go for it. Like when it comes to sex I don't think it's right to judge anyone or that it's in anyone's place to tell someone that their to young to have sex. Unless it's for all the wrong reasons then help your friend. But you don't know what state someone is in and ultimately it's their decision so stop judging them. Because that's how trust is compromised. My best friend for almost seven years now just decided to tell me she lost her virginity almost a year ago. She didn't tell me sooner because she thought I was going to judge her or look at her a different way afterwards. And it's true I did but not because she had sex like that's not even a big deal to me but the fact that she didn't trust me enough to tell me. That only made me think like okay what was it about my behavior that made her think that I would judge her. It's really hard to tell your friend something if you already know how they'll react. So I think everyone needs to calm down about this whole sex thing it's scary and emotional and you have to be stable and ready when it comes time. And you have to be with the right person don't plan anything because that's stupid. Whatever happens happens, just don't get pregnant. This was a very weird conversation I feel like I've just had with my friends and internet strangers. Any who I've learned to stop over thinking things made my life much easier. Until next time!

xxxx.

- Ayssatou